Different state of mind will inevitably lead to the fact that different personality characteristics, defects of personality and social negative phenomena, not
only as moral issues and codes of conduct, but should be further from the mental attitude of, to seize the
essence of the problem.
Now some made their fortunes in the As for the million pair of shoes, it is not uncommon. Why do these material wealth, so
lose their psychological balance, only a little ostentatious struggle for psychological balance to the rich.
we ought to Celebrity can be a book exhibition,
starring the fame and fortune; leaders can talk, report, show his face on television, newspaper accounts show that the version of the status,
and not always feel beautiful scenery on the money, would not bury their value? Therefore, lattice defects such people
not due to the unreasonable one persists primarily but because of the spirit of poverty, caused by the bad state of mind. As an ostentatious of < br> Kuanye accused him of saying: do not think their bad absurd, also,
bad but in the mentality of people who have money seem ostentatious folly but it is not really envy!
the contrary, as the Li Ka Shing, Henry Fok such entrepreneurs , hundreds of millions of its wealth, but they never bother to get several hundred thousand dollars to buy a dog
to Bai Yan, but out of large sums of money to finance the cultural education and the welfare of disabled persons.
This Daren cause, great personality and good Dazhi initiatives are based on deep understanding of social and psychological quality of life and culture
quality.
Clearly, mental attitude is bound to lead to personality and a different, and there will be night and day apart.
bad attitude is the formation of bad character and a major source of bad life in general likely to cause timid, lazy, boastful, jealous, overly self-critical
, excessive self-expansion, narrow-minded one-sided, lack of interest and imagination, personality defects, in the attitudes of others
will be the performance of the following:
one, or the authority of the blind that cater to the strong, the attitude of subordination and dependency.
This is not that same sense of admiration, trust and obedience, but a coward and not have their own mind I
style attitude; face adulation, expressed dissatisfaction with the back and, once the position of increased power and rely on a bit, as daughter in law wife boiled the Old Woman Side
become high and mighty.
Second, for others to take critical, questioning, belittling attitude. intention and privacy of others is not always a system containing
interest, and always wanted to inquire about the situation with their own compared to always look into other people's movements all day long.
the shortcomings of others accused of trying to set off his smart; on the merits and achievements of others jealous death, in order to
seek psychological balance. Such people are always vulgar and foolish to vent their dissatisfaction with others, mainly to avoid the humiliation felt
poor.
Third, there is no self-confidence people prone to aggressive and retaliatory tendencies.
because of one's inner weakness, conflict with others at the time, it is bound to others sarcasm, playing
hit retaliation, rather than focusing on one point and the rest, in order to cover up their bad quality, they tend to feel inferior or self
narrowly preoccupied with the negative and vulgar. this kind of character flaw not only harmful to the self-development, but also harmful to relationships.
the contrary, a good psychological quality person, with real confidence, not vanity, he is not just that they have faith
heart, the pursuit of a higher, but also enrich the cultural character and strong personality; will also realistic, br> tolerant understanding and treatment of others. such people, maybe not the fame and success, job status as the most important,
but to characteristics as the most important.
inner sense of fulfillment and self-confidence enabled him to frankly face up to their face reality, to a healthy and balanced state of mind a man in society. Therefore, he does not have
not affected to please others, to lure others, attachment to others; he does not and will not find fault with others, to deceive others and attack other people
revenge.
he does not hide himself behind the hypocrites, who do not need to see other people at a disadvantage as their own, or will only
peace of mind, it is discarded because of his inferiority complex, cowardice, vulgar, conceited, arrogant, lazy, jealous, which do not really
real, not a good self-image, and consciously the pursuit and performance of real life, active life, casual ease as the self-shaped
.
's external qualities instrument, posture, eloquence, demeanor, such as performance ability and communication skills, but also it can be summarized as port
and Communication. It is for us to manage life, how to estimate the importance of improving the life is not over. behave themselves in society, there
and others who do not need to deal with, and effectively communicate it to others? and it is the most economic and simple, widely exchange of information directly
the means and methods, especially for undertaking the leadership, management, education, public relations secretary,
trade diplomacy, the survey interviews, marketing services, people who work duties, but also a cultivation of particular importance and can
power. Now eloquence and communicative competence attention more and more people, but many people only focus on how to master methods and techniques,
rather than focusing on changing the mentality, which does not grasp live the question. Carnegie has long emphasized that br> to the clever quips that are determined by the mental attitude.
a representative of the unit to participate in speech contest of the young girl, one stop to the podium, the face flushed, his legs slightly
Micro-shaking, voice modulation children, shortness of breath also appears hh up suddenly, she had just said something to have forgetten.
the more frightened her, as if all eyes are the same as the lever for shooting her. She wanted to escape as soon as possible, but not willing to
desertion. she could not making fools of themselves, to the disgrace of the unit, she is the only way to feel the heart beat faster, more
fast, but a piece of my mind Blank, already memorize all the words fly without a trace. She was like falling into the cyclotron,
dizzy distressed and ran back to his seat to sit down hh until the end of speech, she did not dare head hh
to lift a graduate student about to graduate, his first as a trainee teacher to the rostrum, when the students stand up, and students exchanged greetings
, he would like to know a good prologue went nowhere in sight. panic , he simply said with a trembling voice: , but in return is not calm, but oozes sweat on the forehead. When he took out subconsciously, , he found himself in the hand holding is not
handkerchief, but a sock mm ah?! Damn!
feet is probably the last night when the mysteriously do not know how to put socks stuffed into a pocket. < br> He wanted to avoid the gathering together dozens of pairs of eyes shot, grabbed the eraser to clean the blackboard, the classroom was turned naughty days. He embarrassed not controlled
law, shame, had to run down the platform, the lift of panic leg and kicked over a table in the thermos hh
about the failure of their inferiority and negative attitude is caused by the timidity disease. nervous diseases in general, there are two cases, one
insane sick, one is personality on the inferiority complex. For most people, there is not anything wrong physically,
but the fear of the psychological stress caused blush, heart, stomach cramps and sweating physiological changes. fear and tight < br> Photo sentiment is bound to stimulate the sensitive nervous system, bringing it to secrete too much adrenaline, so that the body is in a state of emergency alert and
.
Thus, the human body changes in exception occurred: systolic accelerated, tachycardia appears as the current
. skin and spleen contraction of blood vessels and sometimes, sometimes expanded, pale face will be followed, and then become red,
and increased skin temperature, hh phenomenon caused by sweating in general, this is psychological problems, not born as
this, but all including the family's spiritual and cultural conservative imperceptible influence the results.
this in public performance Communication with people arose in the world, timid fear anything more than a
personal defeat. This is not mentally ill, but a negative attitude. This shows that eloquence and communication to solve problems and change the negative attitude
also an extremely important issue.
appear in the speech communication over shyness and tension, on the surface, seems to be a fear in public
performance, or lack of spot experience. actually not the environment in which the pressure, but a fear of being a threat of self
and damage the image of the negative attitude.
the saying goes: tree bark, people have to face. the so-called is particularly concerned about the self-image in the minds of others what kind
. Each person has an ideal self-image, always want others to have the eyes to see their approval;
Everyone also has a social self-image among the masses and always want everyone to enjoy themselves socially; each individual also has a
gender, age, occupation, and family, and economic self-image, always want to
can get themselves in all aspects of care and development. This self-image concerns and to maintain awareness of, for now at the start
society for young people with little experience, it is very natural and strong. There are always young men he had ever experienced the inconvenience
desires and made public the weaknesses and aspirations. Thus, self-confidence and low self-esteem, bright and trouble, bold and timid, and other legislation
conflicting signals and psychological depression There are often mixed in them, alternating, so they will self-image of the heart particularly concerned
look like the eyes of others, and is especially sensitive to everything around. When a person into contact with strangers
, with the opposite sex, and talking to authorities, or public speaking, and participating in activities at a game,
he would not help to realize self-image is facing a threat and danger, always worrying about her inappropriate words , give or where
only stricken and making fools of themselves than others, laughable; both the fear of being accused that he is talk to others they are , at the 5th World Cup held in Beijing, skills competition, a male player of all-round champion won,
win the honor for the motherland. CCTV reporter interview him on the spot, is unexpected is the world champion to reporters hair
asked, actually a loss for words, a loss, in addition to a dozen off to say , a decent meaningful words did not spit it out, it is regrettable.
was introduced to a young military cadres, and a very pretty female nurses met. girl on his head, modules like
are also desirable, the two to talk about on the. the girl to the field on a business trip, the two rely on wild goose on the teaser, but fortunately there is yard boy belly
ink, wrote on his efforts to conquer the girl's heart. girl came back, just in time to tune
a friend to go, she along with some guy at the party, as friends farewell, and not without pride for everyone to do the introduction, there are views to fellow representatives
She published two toast, give him a chance to show in public. This young man erupted in stunned. peacetime
his unit is a humble,
to say a few words, do not know what has been said, the girl is ashamed of, expression immediately , the two broke up this way.
this cowardice, not a few problems, but most people are there to varying degrees, their proportion is quite high
: among young people account for about 80% more, had worked for years in people who have some experience which accounted for almost 50% also
. This is very much a social problem.
remember October 1984, China received 3,000 young Japanese visit.
young people of China in the Sino-Japanese friendship get-together, it was found, no matter where a large crowd of speech, or the dispersion of a group of three to five
talk to most of Japan's free and easy and generous young men and women, good conversation. Phase than under our young men and women are most
become too cautious in some stiff, some people even the party communication, many people tend to be difficult to open Chrysostom, squeamish.
I let you push into the young man into a coy shy young lady; and big girl is partly concealed, long-awaited
out. ; I am his daughter to be honest, really, even the words will not say! country's modernization and human quality do?
our school education and social education Despite the development of many disciplines, except the most practical and most widely
human eloquence can promote the learning and communication are ignored or contempt, and is almost a blank, a wilderness, which can not be said to be very
big regret. Do not say that the institutions do not generally set up this course is devoted to training and education, publicity, secretarial, legal
and management personnel of the institutions have not set up this course.
this attention to knowledge, light ability, science, liberal arts light, and in the liberal arts, he also said that the tendency to override the light has not conducive to raising people
quality and meet the needs of modernization.
everyone has a mouth, one to eat, and second, to speak. eat, and delicious food to eat,
seafood delicacies can be described as a delicious food ; good to say, and can be a little witty remarks, enjoys popular support, can be described as eloquent.
live with the students improve, not tasting more and more people are shallow, but those are few superior eloquence, cream of the crop.
significant human civilization is in the sign language skills and mental qualities, if we only re-tasting and light eloquent communication, I am sorry that some really good luck
, but only degraded.
a long time, had a habit of view is not to articulate and communicative competence as a genuine talent, it will not be seen as more
basic skills and the required course of life. Some people even think that articulate and sociable What is it? not
had to utter words, to meet on the familiar. In fact, this is a prejudice and misunderstanding. As for the A class goes, it is a self-restraint, self-repressed negative attitude.
students living in the real, do some people always say empty words, hype, rarely speak the truth, real work, but these person's problems does not lie in
diametrically opposed. As for the shut up possession of the tongue, afraid to communication, it does not
is human nature and desires, but rather caused by the feudal tradition of human nature invisible rope bondage in a relationship
distorted. the original meaning of the art of eloquence and communication is learned, enterprising, outgoing and fun person to
have refined the quality and capacity. everyone has a mouth, why do some people say empty, boring, can not pass
broadcast The Sound of Music, but only unpleasant it?
their essence is precisely the bad state of mind, know nothing, no real ability of the vulgar expression. So good
eloquence bad quality level of a person significant signs; like communication is not the same conversation casual, frivolous behavior, but a person
freedom, equality, free and easy comfortable way of life. we learn not only to master the art of eloquence and communication to increase knowledge of a practical
and skills, but also the potential for the development, improve the quality of the priceless treasure, and build life life skills, to the success of the overpass into
. The key lies in the concept of updating an open mind.
eloquence and communicative competence lies in mentality, not only is the timidity and fear to overcome psychological barriers, but also in improving
eloquence and communicative competence, the still need a positive attitude, a leading role in the success psychology.
no doubt that the superb eloquence and communication skills certainly need a wealth of knowledge, master the language of art, but to have flexible
clever improvisation ideas and expression. However, people in everyday speech, public speaking and interacting with people when
not directly depend on you have learned the knowledge and means to express or exchange, but with your ideas,
to be sensitive and emotional awareness. If the idea is not updated, state of mind is not open, how can you make the language attractive,
effective exchange it?
Take the speech is the language that express their own thoughts and feelings, but your personality and self-consciousness short
thin, do not express themselves in their own language thoughts and feelings, but the excerpt on the newspaper article, to talk to others if
said. Doing so, even if you are very beautiful of ways, it is but there is a bookish, and not have distinct characteristics and
vivid force. and the strength of personality and self-awareness is a mentality problem, obviously, do not open mind, his eloquence
not good.
say sense of humor, this is the modern man should be attention and have the kind of accomplishment and ability. Some young people are hi
Huan humor, often learn a little humor pieces or extract some of Proverbs and exciting punch, this is a good learning and love
good. But if we only put the art of humor as a verbal or a game, it is difficult to humor them.
life because real life will always be some we not liking, things go wrong, as any person's self-image and situation in which all
not be impeccable, very good. If you're bad mood, you'll find a better place in life you?
If you care about someone else's exciting, you can act according to circumstances, the ease of use of language art? false
If you are already bald and his head bare, easy to cause other people laugh, you narrow minded, suspicious nature, bound to
Wohuo hold your breath, not escape the others, is white and the other verbal abuse. This sense of humor to talk about it? On the contrary, you exempt
natural, generous, open attitude, not only to give up perfect, imperfect self-love, but also choose to control their emotion, a sense of
attractive, then people laugh at you every time I head, you'll like it lightly:
; ha ha ha hh the health, viability, and very concerned about their academic performance, intellectual development; I
have to master a certain occupation or professional skills, but also want to practice integrity and noble personality but open-minded, with aplomb
hh eloquence and communication skills all this is life Life, an important factor for success and necessary conditions. However,
gods decide that fate is not unpredictable, but our own mental attitude can change. So I have to establish a successful
psychological, and create a better future!
people to develop not only to break through the limitations of the environment, but also to break through the limitations of their own conditions.'s own conditions, including many side
areas: family background, physical quality of the intellectual qualifications, expertise, external image and yes, politics culture and the ability,
even age, gender and position and so on. which in many ways, as long as the self-confidence as an individual initiative, self-improvement,
are is a breakthrough, improvement, impressive. only looks, a stave, the facial cosmetic surgery. He has created many miracles, put a lot of ugly people
into a beautiful person. But he found that some people after receiving a successful means to find him after the surgery or complained of
not very pretty, that surgery is not effective, self look remains the same. So, the doctors realize a truth: the United States
and ugly, not only is the original appearance of how a person, but also how he is look at their own, is how the quality of his gas
. The doctor who realize the truth for a breakthrough in the limitations of their own conditions and look at the problem of universal significance and deep
moment. how a person's appearance, in addition to the possibility of facial plastic surgery, the general can not be changed. But
how he felt about himself, but decided his true beauty and ugliness. we illustrate the problem with the facts right.
a surname Sun China Youth Daily gave Comrade wrote about his inner pain: I graduated last in factory
has been two years, the current assistant. operational level can be, who can also boast about looks, because I am ugly!
as ugly, others are dismissive to me. I am afraid to go to shopping malls, the mall too many mirrors;
I have the courage to speak with others that have to say, they did not dare look at each other, so that others I formed the impression
: indifference, alienation, self-willed, incompetent. In this way, I struggled hard in pain, drag on mixed day.
all my courage to destroy this ugly face, and I feel that this world is so unfair! I live there is no fun. I ordered
doomed inferior, doomed I want to affect someone else's vision and imagination. I live, what does this mean? I really want to die,
really want to It is not fair hh
retaliation if the death of the world can be unfair retaliation, which fell a try. But there is no way to humans, br> You must, however ugly, The people have been extraordinary beauty and Catherine Esther Rada U.S. letter
any and affection. This is enough to prove that a person's value and overall beauty and ugliness decided not face alone, but by < br> appearance deportment, knowledge training, temperament and personality, intellectual capacity and other factors pose, the most important thing is how to understand the self-
me, what kind of attitude. a person ashamed, wilt shrink reduction, even if he looks good and will not become
a beautiful person; Similarly, if he does not feel smart, he can not become wise; he did not feel good
good heart, it will not be a good man.
One of the three elements of a successful mental is to have their own specific values, to develop a positive attitude is a conscious means
new ideas, especially in the reform and opening up the era of transition from the old concept of a more needs to be updated. < br> We all are in one, not long out of the social environment through education, information dissemination and cultural
nurtured, planted in our good and the beautiful rooted psychological; but at the same time, also Results of the psychological structure of our virtual
leave the dark spider web. who is a social person, people not only with the reform and opening up the environment, revitalize the economy changes,
have the old and welcome, but implicitly exist in many deep-rooted traditional values dominated by value judgments, stereotypes ugly
learning. We often fail to worry about their own ideal, loss of confidence; also to make a specification Health Health
no longer. Lu Xun then the so-called big plus point out errors in the national character, refers to the stereotypes, personality disorders, and this concept
update the history of personality issues and then plastic, and is now facing from the deep burst, the full flowering of the mission.
Carnegie believes that the main body of the individual as a social practice, should naturally be with the social economic foundation and improvement of cultural environment
adjust or rebuild their own values and personality structure. In turn, the people will promote the social environment changes and the cultural atmosphere
improvement and progress. Thus, from a psychological point of view and successful theories, ideas, personality
remodeling is a dynamic flow of the process. who live, updating and remodeling of the process is in progress at any time. That being the case,
we let things slide, with the flow, not on it? why bother even their conscious effort to new channels? This is requirements for the development of our potential
, improve quality, develop a positive mental attitude, took to the road to success in life, not just a passive
update their own ideas, remodeling his own personality. dashing connotation conscious life, the pursuit of price and performance value and personal charm
, if not consciously take the initiative to think about doing, but also talk about what has consciousness? many people because of the lack of a conscious pursuit of this
and performance, despite the cultural knowledge , a kind good wishes, but still can not shake off the shackles of stereotypes,
chic comfortable life and not life skills.
self-confidence self-esteem, independent special line of people, or people who have not succeeded everywhere psychological lucky, things something successful. sometimes even if you designate
a tremendous effort, may not have the expected results. But this temporary failure, and not their mind that he
, quality, value and relationships can not, only states that do not have the conditions for success, or subjective effort
force was inadequate, or there is an objective of their prejudices and misunderstandings. But in any case, they already have to work into the determinants of
and basic conditions, this is their self-esteem and independent special line, able to live independently.
a person is awake, and already has a successful psychological, how not to succeed? just a matter of time before it
. On the contrary, many people always care about how other people see their own, what to say, every word for fear of disappointments,
been setbacks. These people, whether in the specific things that may or lose, the result is due to the small lost big, that is, in order to avoid small losses and can not eat
to live independently, and only succumb to and dependence on others their own views and demands. Such people do not
can determine its own destiny, and success must never miss copies. However, people who can live independently despite the possibility of a piece of concrete in
unhappy things, Chi Diankui, but they are not missing the big picture, but for the small to large, or called disability due to a large
small. the style rookie most. However, in opera downturn opportunity to perform a few cases, she can not help but heart Wang Ran,
need to seek a new path. So she found a popular music, and found that with more people communicate more freely able to pour their hearts out
art. so she broke into Beijing to explore in pursuit of their own position in popular music when,
also for their own specially made in the Xidan subway station so a unique light car ads: the color behind a vast, far
sky, Wu Qiong quietly looking at that big picture and from the subway station where the crowd hh endless lights in the car advertising the site weekly
Wai is a wide range of products introduced in the most beautiful language in the description of a commodity, and Qiong is moving in a very warm feeling
face, staring straight ahead, next to the only two words: success. She should know as an actor in addition to its own strength but also to make more people familiar
noted and accepted. to re-start her record company and signed with a number of different singers, those singers are a company for their
planning, publicity, investment; Qiong you can only own Wu Qiong inventive inevitably be more successful! Thus, Carnegie that for
as a business leader, Wu Qiong, as should also be as self-esteem, confidence and independence.
in a number of young people, often trouble with such problems, such as a college graduate, and increasingly feel that their professional
not interested in the study; or their Xiangtiao Cao to try a new career, but the parents do not agree; or in love
issue with some reluctance, but do not want to hurt each other hh short, faced with a dilemma, in the end how to do it? Health
live in such problems are difficult to take a man to live, there are two main reasons: First, their values, is expected to head
standard is not clear, or prepare to make new choices, but feel that past experience and present situation of contradiction; second
dissatisfaction with what they fear others, especially fear of injury on their most intimate, the most important person.
whatever reasons and the reasons for you personally to be subordinate to the will of independence, must not to be forced to accommodate others, has not played since
play. If you can not take the initiative to life, then it would not live for themselves but for others
equal to live, life down, at best, can only be someone else's shadow, his personal charm and human values are suppressed have
dry, was completely drained and become weak and incompetent, vulgar stingy. Is this not a failure in life.
your self-worth can only be assessed themselves, and not to judge and confirmed by others. If the value placed on self-evaluation and other
under the control of people by the people free to raise or to belittle what you are worth? even though other people say is very
truth, if you think not, you can also do not listen. because of someone else's evaluation can only reflect the opinions of others, your self-worth
up to you to judge. a person's ultimate arbiter not others, but themselves, why should self-assessment
price value of power to the people? in your personal life boat, why you do not steer, hand, when the helmsman to make
others, allow others to control and manipulate it? you have to let others look at you while pleasing to the eye life, or for
the pursuit and realization of value of your life and live it?
positive self-consciousness is a sense of spiritual satisfaction that the evolution of victory. But unfortunately, many people looking around to find
self-confidence, but rarely find in themselves, so their efforts are futile. We need to understand the sense of self-confidence
good in other people's impression is deceptive and foolish.
others think you what to do, how to do this is irrelevant. If the views of others of great value,
must be through your thinking, into your awareness and choice, only into your own understanding and choices will Your development will
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